Why women make their hardest decisions from the wrong place — and what to do instead
On stillness, spiritual practice, and the 15 minutes that can change everything
I am not a woman of religious text.
But I am a woman of spiritual faith and belief text — the kind of poetry that brings me closer to God. Or the Universe. Whatever word opens the door for you.
This season of Easter and Passover, I hope it gives you pause. A moment to reflect on what you need. What you might be missing to bring you closer to yourself, or to whatever holds you together.
The real reason your biggest decisions feel so hard
18 months ago, my doctor recommended I start a GLP-1.
I did not say yes. I did not say no. I sat with it for twelve months while the noise got louder — opinions from every direction, studies, headlines, women I knew who had tried it, women I knew who hadn't. I had all the information I needed. What I did not have was quiet.
What finally moved me was working with a coach. Not to get more information. Not to be told what to do. But to get quiet enough to hear myself. To ask the questions I had not been asking. To find out what I actually thought — separate from what everyone else thought I should do.
That is when I said yes. Not because the information changed. Because I did.
I tell you that because you might be standing somewhere similar right now.
Maybe it is a medication. Maybe it is a procedure, a career move, a relationship, a financial decision. Maybe someone you trust has already told you what they think you should do. Maybe everyone has.
And still — something in you is waiting.
That is not weakness. That is your nervous system trying to protect you from making a significant decision while it is still in fight or flight. Too many women make the most important choices of their lives from that place — overwhelmed, over-informed, under-heard. And then wonder why the outcome does not feel like what they expected.
Your body knows the difference between a decision made from calm and one made from noise. So does the outcome.
The gift you keep skipping
If you are seeking daily space — take it.
If you only have fifteen minutes once a week — let that be enough.
The greatest gift you can give yourself is time and space with the written word. Whether that is poetry, scripture, a letter that still lives in your nightstand — whatever gives you inspiration, perspective, kindness, enoughness, acceptance. Give yourself that anchor.
Fifteen minutes. Let it be enough.
What nervous system regulation actually looks like
I was sent here to be a space for healing. For years that meant with my hands. Now it means something different — a virtual space where women can finally hear themselves think. Process what they are carrying. And find their next step from a place of regulation, not fight or flight.
Nervous system regulation is not a meditation app or a breathing technique, though those can help. It is what happens when your body is in the presence of another regulated nervous system — when it borrows calm from someone who knows how to hold it. That is co-regulation. And it changes what becomes possible.
When you feel that ease in your body, the next steps get easier. But if you keep trying to out-think a brain and body that do not know another option, you stay stuck in the same loop.
If you are craving that space, I am here. To hold it. To guide you. To help you see what is actually going on and make choices that are aligned with your season and your values — your reason in your season.
Then all that noise — the unsolicited advice, the societal opinions, the information you have been collecting — will start to make sense. You will see through it and find your next best step.
Gift yourself an hour of co-regulation. Of ease. Of peace. And walk away with one next step that matches your reason in your season.
